The Gift of the Sensitive

WE are the sensitive ones.  The ones who are not ashamed to feel and vibrate deeply with all of our hearts.  All that is heard, touched, smelled, seen is intensely experienced and we bring it into the world so others can jump in the pools of our creativity. We are the musicians, poets, song writers, artists and lovers.  We bring a sense of beauty, fire and expression into the world for others to wade or dive into the waters of true heart space.

We are the people you come to.  We are the listeners, to share, to understand, to cry.  We hold that loving space for you to be you.  We are the safety in which you seek.  We don't understand what we can't feel.  Our hearts speak for us with grace and mercy to bring softness to a world that can be veiled by the temporary lack of brightness.  Our gifts are our ability to see you, in the shadows and in the light and can expand and radiate out even deeper when we unconditionally accept our own.  If you know a sensitive one, honor and respect them as they do the same for you in every shade of your being.

Love is the Healer

These feel like heavy times and we can often feel powerless and overwhelmed. The question of what can we do?  How can we make it better?  Start with yourself.  Be kind and loving to yourself.  Be kind and loving to your family members.  Be kind and loving to your friends.  Be kind and loving to those you work with.  Be kind and loving to strangers.  Have compassion for others even if they irritate the hell out of you.  Don’t feel kind and loving sometimes?  It doesn’t feel easy as we get immersed in our own pain and take on the pain of others.  Take a quiet walk and breathe.  Write a gratitude list of 5 things for which you are grateful.  Take inventory of your passions and interests.  Remember you are loved by someone.  It starts with love, radiates out from within and literally affects others on many levels and ends with love in partnership as a healer.

And How Are You?

I’m really not ok but its ok and everything really is ok, OK? Oh and thank you for asking.

What if we really told the truth about how we are feeling in the moment we are asked. Typically, right before I train a private client or teach one of my fitness classes, I have some anxiety, sometimes irritation or just feel like I would rather be some other place, doing some other thing; anywhere but where I am and someone asks, "How are you?" 

Moment of truth, smile like most of us tend to do because we don’t want to run the risk of revealing too much.  Or make the impulsive choice to vent and dump which I make a practice of not doing before I teach and certainly not to class participants as I think about energy and how it affects everyone else consciously or unconsciously and it isn’t my intension to intensify negativity. I am quite selective who are my recipients of my “verbal vomiting” as it typically occurs only with my inner circle of close confidants.  But there are times when I have done exactly what I set out not to do, YUP because I’m human. When I feel like I cant catch my breathe because I’m in the midst of an emotional breakdown/breakthrough or my body is in freak out mode with anxiety coursing through my being, My answer to the question, "How are you doing" which often, lets face it, there are many who ask and don’t really want to know and just want to hear “fine thank you.”  And haven’t we all done the same to others?  Sometimes its because we feel rushed or not having patience or sometimes its as simple as not giving a shit, plain and simple.  Which is also a beautiful reminder that if I’m feeling like I don’t give a shit, that’s on me to course correct because something is happening inside that doesn’t feel aligned and its time to get quiet within.

If my response to being asked how I am, doesn’t elicit a knee jerk “Good” or “Great” (and in keeping it real, “I’m great” doesn’t come out of my mouth often because its just not in my vocab but probably should be. (YUP the dreaded “Should”).  I will often say, “Feeling a bit challenged but I’m ok and all is well.”   And that’s my truth because right now, I’m being extremely challenged in so many ways, and so many of us are, but yet I know from the depths of my soul that all is truly well. We hold so much fear in showing our vulnerability but the truth is we all feel moments of being raw and vulnerable and scared. As we speak from our truth of how we really feel in the moment we are asked, it opens spaces within us to increase integrity and authenticity in the way we show up and the miracle of setting others free as well.

Easy Does it when Its not Easy

We really want it to be easy don’t we? Our relationships, personal and professional at our places of employment, relationships with our partners, relationships with our peers and the most important, relationship with ourselves. We want to be on the fast track and just make it all ok and for conflict and problems to disappear or at least fade to ambient white noise. 

I know there are areas in my life that I just want to shelf it until it magically transforms or shifts into something more manageable but it cannot unless I do my work. So whatever you are seeking to hurry up and move along quickly, whether it’s social or political change or things happening in your own home or in your physical body or soul, it takes time to shift from within and having patience both with yourself and others. 

Matters of the Heart Space

A truth is we need to be increasingly aware of the energy we contribute to either stay quiet or to raise our voices. I ask if we can raise consciousness and stay very aware of when we come from a place of true depth and soulfulness or out of rage that is rooted in fear. Before you speak or write, ask if you are contributing the density of the problems/issues or bringing light towards solutions. Are your words from the heartspace or are they from a need to be heard because everyone else is screaming out words that may not even be your truth. If what feels like your truth rises up inside and then permeates in every space in your body, authenticity is calling. There are times for action and if you listen to your heart you will know when those times are your calling but not by listening to the external noise outside of yourself. Let your soul rise up inside of you and allow it to guide you to an increase of understanding of yourself and others. Seek for compassionate acknowlegement of where others come from and know that you cant possibly know what you cannot directly experience. When we continue to give ourselves permission to see anyone else as less as we see ourselves, we are locked to repeat history.  Speak your truth and stay in the light to create the changes that need to happen. Love and blessings to all

Lesson of (Mis)alignment

When the body is out of physical alignment, all sorts of issues can and do arise.  Discomfort, pain, a state of not being at ease.  So too when we are out of alignment with our soul’s purpose.  We feel irritable, uncomfortable, quick to anger, sad or even depressed.  This isn’t to mean that we should be beating ourselves up in any way that we have shifted away from our purpose.  We may not recognize the reason why we feel the way we do is due to misalignment or perhaps we are aware but not sure what to do about it.  One of the greatest remedies is to get quiet and learn comfort in our own skin.  It doesn’t have to be in seated contemplation which doesn’t feel ideal for many people.  It can be a purposeful walking or moving meditation where all of the thoughts drift in and out like clouds, emotions are observed, stories are witnessed and become gently aware of the gaps between it all.  In between thoughts and feelings are spaces of nothingness and in those gaps comes creativity and shifts and that my friends, is where we meet back into an understanding of our higher purposes, back into alignment.

It's a Game of Whack-a-Mole

Every single one of us has areas in our lives where we are perfectly imperfect. if we decide to take inventory, we can observe what feels sticky and rough and what is comfortable and peaceful.

We may have a solid partnership with our mate but can't seem to find direction or focus at work.

We may lead with our intellect and be well read but we forget to have levity in our daily lives. 

We can have thriving relationships with our contemporaries but have not so harmonious relationships with our children or parents.  

Some of us have unhealthy relationships with our bodies but everything else seems within our control.

But that's the beauty in all of it. Situations arise to be looked, worked on, resolved and either dissipate or placed on a shelf for a later time.  No one but no one gets all of it right and i don't think we're supposed to.  

And just like the game "Whack a Mole," when we resolve one issue, situation, concern, another will pop up.  

So enjoy and have fun with what is working. Decide if you want to look at what isn't working and if its time to take on a new self-improvement project, begin with compassion and willingness to see it differently.  

Wild and Crazy Courage

Courage has been on my mind. Courage to show up with an open heart, courage to face your dark shadows and be accountable for them. Courage to love yourself enough to be gentle with yourself when you feel raw and vulnerable. Courage to let yourself and others off the hook. And courage to be authentic, be able to say YES to opportunities that feel alive and exciting and NO to people and experiences that bring you out of alignment with your truth. Have courage to follow your curiosities. Always expecting to feel GREAT is bullshit.  We are spiritual beings living in physical bodies and we are capable of experiencing a wide and vast range of emotions, so do so, feel all of it. Having courage to Let it move through you. Dont drink it away, smoke it away, eat it away, shop it away...feel it, let it Move through you and it will pass.